i see you
dating & relationships are where you feel most insecure in your life.
you overthink & obsess over anyone you're talking to.
you ignore red flags like the plague.
you struggle to state your needs & stick up for yourself.
you tiptoe around your feelings as if they're bombs waiting to detonate.
you feel hopeless and pissed off about your romantic future.
you need constant reassurance in relationships, and it's never enough.
you worry that you'll be single, unsure & alone forever.
you want to throw up when you think about re-downloading hinge.
you're scared of opening up to someone & getting hurt again, so you keep your walls just as high as your impossible standards.
you find yourself saying f this shit.
dating & relationships is where you feel most insecure in your life.
you overthink & obsess over anyone you're talking to.
you ignore red flags like the plague.
you struggle to state your needs & stick up for yourself.
you tiptoe around your feelings as if they're bombs waiting to detonate.
you feel hopeless and pissed off about your romantic future.
you need constant reassurance in relationships, and it's never enough.
you worry that you'll be single, unsure & alone forever.
you want to throw up when you think about re-downloading hinge.
you're scared of opening up to someone & getting hurt again, so you keep your walls just as high as your impossible standards.
you find yourself saying f this shit.
insecurity makes it worse.
theres so many moving parts to dating & relationships, and you were likely never taught how to excel at it. combine this with insecurities, unfulfilling (maybe even toxic) relationships are bound to happen.
i get it.
love is hard.
time to glow up ☀️
you can do the work to become the most secure, confident & strong version of yourself.
the good news:
the good news:
you're ready to
you're ready to
glow tf up.
glow tf up.
you're ready to take back control of your love life.
you're ready to work through your anxious attachment style.
you're ready to take ownership of your history & patterns.
you're ready to let go of the stories that are holding you back.
you're ready to become secure & confident in yourself.
you're ready to have bulletproof self worth.
you're ready to have the confidence to take risks & grow.
you're ready to wear secure attachment style as your sexiest accessory.
you're ready to do the work on yourself before getting into another relationship.
you're ready to take back control of your love life.
you're ready to work through your anxious attachment style.
you're ready to take ownership of your history & patterns.
you're ready to let go of the stories that are holding you back.
you're ready to become secure & confident in yourself.
you're ready to have bulletproof self worth.
you're ready to have the confidence to take risks & grow.
you're ready to do the work on yourself before getting into another relationship.
you're ready to wear secure attachment style as your sexiest accessory.
Introducing
the no bullshit group coaching program that shows you exactly how to grow into the most secure version of yourself
7 modules
47 recorded lessons covering everything from attachment theory to moving on to communication to self worth.
36 guided worksheets
Each lesson is paired with a worksheet to reflect on your experiences & apply the information to yourself.
self paced course
The course is organized for you to go at your own speed to reduce overwhelm.
START NOW
biweekly coaching calls
Live group coaching to reflect and connect with other like minded women
voxer group chat
Be in constant community with women on the same journey as you, supporting you every step of the way.
graduation retreat
Celebrate your graduation + the new year with a 4 day weekend retreat in scottsdale AZ with yoga, hiking,
self study, and deep connection
BULLETPROOF
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storytime
- We'll write out the story of your love life or a recent relationship you want to work through.
- Then, we'll edit it to expose your blind spots and give yourself closure.
- We'll begin the process of writing your emotional dictionary - a resource that theoretically defines all of your emotions while also acknowledging your previous experiences with them.
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body on love
- We'll study how different brain structures impact our ability to engage in healthy love.
- We'll go through the hormonal & neurochemical changes in each stage of love.
- We'll discuss polyvagal theory in depth so you know how to care for yourself on a nervous system level.
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all things attachment
- We'll go through the type of person we're attracted to & the type of person we show up as within relationships.
- We'll discuss anxious & avoidant attachment styles: how they develop, how they show up behaviorally
- We'll learn how to grow into secure attachment style.
- We'll create your love life timeline: a resource for you to lay out common themes across the board of all of your relationships to reveal your patterns.
- We'll explore what your relationship patterns are & how they may have come to be.
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the hard stuff
- How our inner child & bonds with our parents/caregivers impact our capacity to be in a relationship.
- How abandonment wounds impact us in a relationship.
- And the "ugly" stuff: codependency, cheating, love bombing, and trauma bonds.
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moving on 101
- We delve into what closure really is & how to give it to ourselves when a relationship ends.
- We dissect the difficult skill of letting go so that we can forgive others & ourselves, no matter what.
- We uncover the difference between guilt & shame, and how to work through both.
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relational intelligence
- We cover the different styles of communication we likely utilize out of habit, as well as how to intentionally communicate with non-violence & co-operation.
- We discuss the 6 basic humans needs and love languages & how they impact our needs within a relationship.
- We master the ability to conflict & repair in a relationship with respect and collaboration.
- We dip our toes into what intimacy truly is.
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know your worth
- We set up boundaries with ourselves & others in order to prevent heartbreak in the future.
- We create your relationship resume: a resource for you to come back to assess whether or not this person is meeting your criteria.
- We discuss the difference between self worth & self acceptance and how to manage both.
- We create your vision not only for your relationships, but for your life.
what you'll learn
Bulletproof will help you
✔ be 150% certain that you will be GUCCI - with or without a relationship
✔ never let a man waste your time with breadcrumb bs again
✔ embrace the single life & learn to love spending time with yourself
✔ have ridiculously high ass standards for yourself & what you're willing to tolerate from other people
✔ ditch toxic relationship patterns & only accept healthy connection
✔ attract a partner who matches your energy & values
✔ know exactly what you want in a partner & a relationship so you don't waste your time getting attached to the wrong person just for validation
✔ not be afraid to speak up for yourself while dating & in a relationship to share your desires & needs, if something's bothering you, and if you need reassurance
✔ learn to practice non-attachment so you're able to walk away when the connection is no longer satisfying your standards
✔ be 150% certain that you will be GUCCI - with or without a relationship
✔ never let a man waste your time with breadcrumb bs again
✔ embrace the single life & learn to love spending time with yourself
✔ have ridiculously high ass standards for yourself & what you're willing to tolerate from other people
✔ ditch toxic relationship patterns & only accept healthy connection
✔ attract a partner who matches your energy & values
✔ know exactly what you want in a partner & a relationship so you don't waste your time getting attached to the wrong person just for validation
✔ not be afraid to speak up for yourself while dating & in a relationship to share your desires & needs, if something's bothering you, and if you need reassurance
✔ learn to practice non-attachment so you're able to walk away when the connection is no longer satisfying your standards
READY TO GROW UP & GLOW UP 🧿
“This allowed me to get through my breakup by focusing on myself and helped me realized that I deserved better the entire relationship.”
testimonials
“My last ex took me two years to get over and I got over my most recent ex in 3 months of coaching. I am actually happier now than I was my entire relationship.”
“This helped me heal so much of my inner trauma that I didn’t realize I had. I learned how to actually feel my emotions instead of ignoring and repressing them.”
ready to glow tf up?
$384 in free bonuses
group coaching
just the course
Just the course:
$497
✔ 1 week Voxer support ($250 value)
✔ No contact masterclass ($30 value)
✔ Breakup Blueprint ($97 value)
✔ Letting go meditation ($7 value)
Group coaching + the course:
$1297
STARTS November 4th
✔ biweekly live group coaching calls to reflect and connect with other like minded women
✔ 8 weeks of a voxer group chat with women on the same journey as you, supporting you every step of the way
THE COURSE:
✔ Glow Up Guide: 47 video lessons + 36 guided worksheets organized into 7 self paced modules
✔ 1 week voxer support ($250 value)
✔ No contact masterclass ($30 value)
✔ Breakup Blueprint ($97 value)
✔ Letting go meditation ($7 value)
the no bullshit group coaching program that shows you exactly how to grow into the most secure version of yourself
BULLETPROOF
$997
join with a friend & you both save $300
or 3 monthly payments of $365
or 4 monthly payments of $350
or 3 monthly payments of $200
✔ a hormone-friendly menu curated by women's nutritionist rach
✔ morning vinyasa yoga & energizing breathwork
✔ meditation & self study workshops
✔ yin yoga on evenings after hikes
✔ hiking camelback mountain & pinnacle peak
✔ free time to explore old town scottsdale
✔ one dinner out at true food
✔ one lifting workout at anarchy fitness
✔ private photographer so you can detach from your phone
scottsdale, AZ
jan 8-12, 2025
+ $1500
optional graduation retreat
join us in scottsdale for
yoga
hiking
connection
self study
experienced or newbie - get ready to om & flow together in vinyasa, and melt into the floor in yin.
mentally prepare yourself to climb camelback mountain & pinnacle peak for 360º views of the valley.
spend quality time in authentic connection with a like minded crew of adventure seekers & emotionally intelligent adults.
bring your favorite pen to dig into & re-write beliefs and patterns so you go home renewed.
LETS GLOW
when you enroll, you'll also receive these bonuses
Breakup Blueprint
Breakup Blueprint
Breakup Blueprint is an emergency crash course teaching you how to move through heavy emotions post-breakup so that you can come out a better version of yourself on the other side.
Breakup Blueprint is an emergency crash course teaching you how to move through heavy emotions post-breakup so that you can come out a better version of yourself on the other side.
Letting Go Meditation
Letting Go Meditation
Plug in your headphones, close your eyes, and begin the process of re-wiring your brain to not only let go of your ex, but also feel neutral towards them.
Plug in your headphones, close your eyes, and begin the process of re-wiring your brain to not only let go of your ex, but also feel neutral towards them.
No Contact Masterclass
No Contact
Masterclass
Can't stop talking to or even stalking your ex on social media? This masterclass will help you kick this self-sabotaging bad habit to the curb.
your glow up is guaranteed
if you don't feel more secure & confident in yourself after completing the program & all of the worksheets,
I will work with you one on one for free until you do.
Meet your coach
Hi, I'm Shan
I felt homeless, worthless, terrified, and overcome by emotions I couldn’t control.
I had two options:
- Do what I had always done to get over a boy: get on dating apps for validation, lose an unhealthy amount of weight as an attempt to make my ex regretful (because I believed that my body was all I was worth in a relationship), keep tabs on my ex, and drink until I couldn't feel anything anymore.
- Take the path less traveled and dig into the painful depths of heartbreak.
I had to learn how to express my emotions, develop healthy coping mechanisms, and work through my anxious attachment style and fear of abandonment.
Because of this breakup, I grew into myself & ended up getting into another relationship. It was much healthier & even more fulfilling. But, over time, we were no longer able to meet each other's needs and mutually decided to go our separate ways, with love.
It was my first experience ending a relationship without getting dumped out of the blue. It was hard, AND it was liberating - only because I had done the work to grow into secure attachment style and not revolve my life around a relationship.
I chose the latter.
I decided to move from Massachusetts to Arizona to live in the valley of the sun & embody what it means to be a phoenix rising from the ashes.
It hasn't been easy by any means, but growing into the most secure & confident version of myself has been priceless.
Now I get to help women like you do the same thing.
xoxo, shan
your glow up godmother
Meet
your
coach
Hi, I'm
Shan
I had two options:
- Do what I had always done to get over a boy: get on dating apps for validation, lose an unhealthy amount of weight as an attempt to make my ex regretful (because I believed that my body was all I was worth in a relationship), keep tabs on my ex, and drink until I couldn't feel anything anymore.
- Take the path less traveled and dig into the painful depths of heartbreak.
Because of this breakup, I grew into myself & ended up getting into another relationship. It was much healthier & even more fulfilling. But, over time, we were no longer able to meet each other's needs and mutually decided to go our separate ways, with love.
It was my first experience ending a relationship without getting dumped out of the blue. It was hard, AND it was liberating - only because I had done the work to grow into secure attachment style and not revolve my life around a relationship.
I chose the latter.
xoxo, shan
your glow up godmother
The breakup gave me the space I needed to dig into myself, heal old wounds that I was using relationships to cover up, and create MY life - exactly as I wanted it.
I decided to move from Massachusetts to Arizona to live in the valley of the sun & embody what it means to be a phoenix rising from the ashes.
It hasn't been easy by any means, but growing into the most secure & confident version of myself has been priceless.
Now I get to help women like you do the same thing.
This is possible for you too.
This is possible
for you too.
You can glow up into the most secure version of yourself.
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have the glowup of the century.
enroll in bulletproof & dig into the content.
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connect with your community.
I'M READY
This is for you if:
✅ You're ready to learn how to express your emotions, communicate your needs, and productively conflict so that you can start feeling optimistic about your future relationships.
✅ You're ready to grow out of your anxious or avoidant attachment style and step into secure attachment style.
✅ You're ready to grow your self worth and accept yourself so you can stop settling for less than you deserve in relationships.
✅ You're ready to get CRYSTAL clear on what you want in a relationship AND in a partner so you can stop waisting your time.
This is NOT for you if:
❌ You're not ready to find the lessons in & move on from the past - you're still identifying with it.
❌ You're not ready to take ownership of your role in your love life.
❌ You're not willing to face the "dark" parts of yourself - you'd rather just stay on the fluffy, feel-good side of personal development.
❌ You expect results overnight. This is a crockpot, not an air fryer.
GLOW UP NOW 🦋
GLOW UP NOW 🦋
What happens after I purchase Glow Up Guide?
You’ll receive an email with a link to create an account on StanStore, the platform this course is hosted on. Once you sign up and log in, you can access the product.
Do you offer refunds?
Due to the digital nature of this product, refunds are not offered. I do have a glow up guarantee: if you don't feel more secure & confident in yourself after completing the program & all of the worksheets, I will work with you one on one for free until you do.
How long do I have access to the course?
You will have lifetime access to Glow Up Guide & will receive any additions to the course for free!
How long does it take to complete the course?
The course is self paced and organized into seven modules, some longer than others. You could focus on one module per week, or biweekly. Or you could crash course it and fly through it, it's up to you!
Frequently Asked Questions
Whats the difference between the course & group coaching?
The course is structured into 7 modules that you go through at your own pace, alone. Group coaching builds on the course but is a more hands-on experience. It includes the course, as well as live biweekly calls for group coaching to reflect and connect with other like minded women and 8 weeks of a voxer group chat with women on the same journey as you, supporting you every step of the way. This is best suited for someone who thrives in community & is looking for more personalized attention.
Are the group
coaching calls live?
Yes, the biweekly group coaching calls will be live. The recordings of the call will be uploaded to a google drive & distributed as well. The time of the call will be voted on by the group for maximum attendance.
Do I have to go on the graduation retreat?
No, the retreat is an optional add-on experience of $1500. We would love to celebrate with you!
Do I have to be going through a breakup?
No, this is for anyone looking to dig into self reflection in order to improve their emotional & relational intelligence. Whether you're going through a breakup, single & dating, or in a relationship, you will grow here.
Frequently Asked Questions
What happens after I purchase sign up?
You’ll receive an email with a link to create an account on StanStore, the platform this course is hosted on. Once you sign up and log in, you can access the courses.
Do you offer refunds?
Due to the digital nature of this product, refunds are not offered. I do have a glow up guarantee: if you don't feel more secure & confident in yourself after completing the program & all of the worksheets, I will work with you one on one for free until you do.
How long do I have access to the course?
You will have lifetime access to Glow Up Guide & will receive any additions to the course for free!
How long does it take to complete the course?
The course is self paced and organized into seven modules, some longer than others. You could focus on one module per week, or biweekly. Or you could crash course it and fly through it, it's up to you!
How are the course & group coaching different?
The course is structured into 7 modules that you go through at your own pace, alone. Group coaching builds on the course but is a more hands-on experience. It includes the course, as well as live biweekly calls for group coaching to reflect and connect with other like minded women and 8 weeks of a voxer group chat with women on the same journey as you, supporting you every step of the way. This is best suited for someone who thrives in community & is looking for more personalized attention.
Are the group coaching calls live?
Yes, the biweekly group coaching calls will be live. The recordings of the call will be uploaded to a google drive & distributed as well. The time of the call will be voted on by the group for maximum attendance.
Do I have to go on the graduation retreat?
No, the retreat is an optional add-on experience of $1500. We would love to celebrate with you!
Do I have to go on the graduation retreat?
No, the retreat is an optional add-on experience of $1500. We would love to celebrate with you!
Do I have to be going through a breakup?
No, this is for anyone looking to dig into self reflection in order to improve their emotional & relational intelligence. Whether you're going through a breakup, single & dating, or in a relationship, you will grow here.
It's time to grow up.
Real talk, fam
Whatever happened in your past is likely not your fault, but it is your responsibility to own how it impacted your present day behavior. At some point, you have to recognize that your life is YOUR life, and no one is going to do this work for you. If you want the healthy, intimate, and fulfilling relationship of your dreams - you absolutely deserve it, but it's not free. You have to earn it by becoming the type of person that's able to be that vulnerable. It's now, later, or never - why wait?
Here's what's waiting for you on the other side:
Here's what's waiting for you on the other side:
What are you waiting for?
What are you waiting for?
START NOW
Letting go of your past for good.
Feeling confident in your ability to authentically connect with a partner.
Knowing that you are enough, with or without a romantic partner.
ready to glow tf up?
$384 in free bonuses
just the course
Just the course:
$497
✔ 1 week Voxer support ($250 value)
✔ No contact masterclass ($30 value)
✔ Breakup Blueprint ($97 value)
✔ Letting go meditation ($7 value)
Group coaching + the course:
presale: $997
regular: $1297
group coaching
STARTS November 4th
✔ biweekly live group coaching calls to reflect and connect with other like minded women
✔ 8 weeks of a voxer group chat with women on the same journey as you, supporting you every step of the way
THE COURSE:
✔ Glow Up Guide: 47 video lessons + 36 guided worksheets organized into 7 self paced modules
✔ 1 week voxer support ($250 value)
✔ No contact masterclass ($30 value)
✔ Breakup Blueprint ($97 value)
✔ Letting go meditation ($7 value)
the no bullshit group coaching program that shows you exactly how to grow into the most secure version of yourself
BULLETPROOF
join with a friend & you both save $300
or 3 monthly payments of $365
✔ a hormone-friendly menu curated by women's nutritionist rach
✔ morning vinyasa yoga & energizing breathwork
✔ meditation & self study workshops
✔ yin yoga on evenings after hikes
✔ hiking camelback mountain & pinnacle peak
✔ free time to explore old town scottsdale
✔ one dinner out at true food
✔ one lifting workout at anarchy fitness
✔ private photographer so you can detach from your phone